My latest boyfriend has been informed that he is catch-and-release only, and has been returned to the pond. I hate making that phone call, but "do unto others, etc" is always in my mind when I think about chickening out and just letting things slide instead of breaking up formally. I actually think it would be best to do it face to face, but when do you do that-- when he comes to pick you up or after he pays for dinner?
I pulled the it's-not-you-it's-me thing and told him that I'm not getting enough time alone, what with seeing him, riding my horses, visiting my dad, and mowing my parents' lawn while dad is recovering from his stroke. I told him the truth, just not all of it. There is a mile-long list of things that make him wrong for me, but I didn't feel that I needed to add insult to injury by itemizing them for him.
So what happened? He called me back 10 minutes later and said that if it was only because he wanted to see me too much, than maybe we could just see each other on the weekends or something. I was tempted to start on the list, but there were other people standing around and I didn't want to give them the pleasure of hearing what kind of loser I've been seeing this time.
I don't understand. If you don't give a guy a fraction of hope, he'll imagine one. I BROKE UP WITH HIM. I said I didn't want to see him anymore. Whatever the reason, I said I was through. Why not walk away instead of beg for an ego bash?
Looks like maybe I'm missing something.