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The Classic "i'm Preying For You"


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OK, When in my hey days of religion I became good friends with a Wesleyan Methodist. We were both bible thumper and pious. I left the church 5 years ago...he is still in it.We are both now over 30. He still goes to church every Sunday, pays tithing's money, is still a virgin. Ok So heres the prob..every time I talk with him I get the old "I'm preying for you to come back to Jesus" Sometimes he even sings a hymn if I travel with him to say go get a bite to eat. I tell him save his prayers and his songs..now I have a line...I can understand these folk..but I get SICK of the lame "prey for you Bull shit" Also I get sick of his silly hymns..He is a song leader at his church....I get sick of hearing..."How Great Though Art" Now I like this fellow he is a nice fellow.But he needs to cut the religious bull shit out..For one I don't think he is any more pious then the next guy..I actually was on his CPU and found Internet porn in his history :lmao: ..for example.

So what would you guys do? I want to keep the friendship just want to cut out the constant prey concern and hymns.

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I want to keep the friendship just want to cut out the constant prey concern and hymns.

 

Hey Leaf. I think that this is a tricky kind of thing. When I read the quote above essentially I read it as, "I want to keep the friendship, I just want to control his behavior."

 

About the only thing that I can suggest is to give this friend of yours some feedback on how this particular behavior affects you. For instance you might simply say, "When you say that you are praying for me and you sing hymns it really irritates me." With some people though it's not a good idea to reveal to them what irritates you, because that is the response that they are looking for. That is, they are delibrately trying to push your buttons. But you say this is a friend of yours so maybe he's not trying to do that.

 

The other option is to grow a thicker skin. Don't let what he does bother you. Perhaps you could even come back with some witty remark when he says, "I'll pray for you." You could say, "Well I hope that you are on your knees when you do it!" or some such thing. When he sings perhaps you could join along and make a farce of the thing. "How great though fart!"

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Your friend doesn't know what else to do. If the situation were reversed you might want to pray for him.

 

I have friends like this. When they tell me they are praying for me, I say, "Really? Is it doing any good?" They may still do it but they tell me about it much less often.

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Give him a prayer list. Tell him that you are just doing just fine and don't need prayers.

Suggest that he pray for people in war zones, drug addicts, prostitutes, the poor, the homeless, starving people in Africa, children being incested, corrupt pastors, the victims of AIDS, etc.

 

Say, "Those people do need your prayers. I am OK. Thank you very much."

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Sometimes when someone says they are praying for me, I say " And I will continue to hope that the light of reason filters into your life." That usually irritates them, so you might not want to do that.

 

My mother is constantly praying for me. To her, I usually just say in a very bland voice, "That's nice." and then change the subject.

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Give him a prayer list. Tell him that you are just doing just fine and don't need prayers.

Suggest that he pray for people in war zones, drug addicts, prostitutes, the poor, the homeless, starving people in Africa, children being incested, corrupt pastors, the victims of AIDS, etc.

 

Say, "Those people do need your prayers. I am OK. Thank you very much."

 

Lorena had excellent advice here. When this happens to me I think, "Shove your fuckin prayers where the sun doesn't shine!" this clears my head. Then you must be civil and ignore the religion bullshit and enjoy your friend for who he is. I guess you have to accept things you dislike in a friendship. Good luck!

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Thanks guys good advise.

Ive told this fellow "Jay" that I would esp appriciate when he dont sing...I hate it mainly becasue he acts so "holy" when he sings...and it is so fake..Sometiems he sings then raises his hands ect...I have told him..hey you can prey whatever :Wendywhatever: I really don't care its your time your wasting but please stop the hymns!

This fellow use to give me small sermons..but has stoped those...Like drinking beer is wrong, ect...you know...the text book bull shit.

Ive notice most of your old freinds are really only preying for you because they want you back into thier mold of religion or the pastors prey for you probally becasue they miss that tithing money "I have come to a conclusion that 99.999% of ALL Christian pastors are money grubbers! I SPEAK from exeriance on this"!!

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Just as a sidenote, is that a recurring typo in the OP?

 

You know, quite often, when a morontheist supposedly "prays", he really "preys" for your head (another trophy, another newly-deceived victim for his cult) :pureevil:

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Just tell him "Pray if you must, but what do you expect to get from me by telling me you are praying? Is your god limited by my lack of knowledge that you are praying? When you tell me you are praying for me, it sounds more like you are preaching to me and I can tell you right now, that's not going to swing me back to your side. Let's just be friends and you do what you have to do when I'm not around."

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