Amethyst Posted November 6, 2005 Share Posted November 6, 2005 Ran into an old childhood friend at the grocery store. She remembered me from one of the fundy schools my mother sent me to when I was in kindergarten. This friend wants me to call her, but I am afraid she is still fundy because she said she doesn't use computers at all because of porn. Apparently her ex-husband was into it. I have to wonder what she does for a living where she doesn't need to know how to use computers at all. Is it worth it calling up someone like that, who I had totally forgotten about anyway? She'll probably just reject me because of my lack of belief, either that or be very determined to get me to go back to church with her, neither of which I need right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caretaker Posted November 6, 2005 Share Posted November 6, 2005 I suppose you could give it a try. But don't hide your nonbelief if she asks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizard Posted November 6, 2005 Share Posted November 6, 2005 Perhaps you could be good for her..bring her into the 21st century.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dianka Posted November 6, 2005 Share Posted November 6, 2005 I was wondering whether I should post my own similar problem. I think you should just be honest with her. Call her and just simply tell her that you are no longer a Christian, and ask her if that will complicate your relationship. You don't have to make it sound all Dear Abby like I did, but get it out. F* it, at this point both of you have very little to lose. My situation is a little different. I have a class with an old friend who admitted that she is a recovering heroine addict. She didn't say anything overtly spiritual, and at this point I am just drawing conclusions based on my perception of her. She seemed a little preachy when I told her that I occasionally partake in a little plant smoking by telling me that all drugs are addictive. I told her that I have been on an occasional basis with the marijuana smoking for the last six years, and she warned me that if I don't stop, there will always be the possibility of developing a dependence. It is my experience with quite a few addicts that spirituality is a necessity in their lives. After dropping the drugs, my friends expressed gratitude in finding God. I generally really like this person, and we are beyond the typical formalities that would restain people from expressing their religious stance. In that situation with other religious friends, I just don't enter into religious talk, but this is different. She is in my class, and we are forced to express our opinions. Well, not forced, but if I want an A in the class I have to enter into class discussion frequently. Anyway, I have a really good friend that is a preacher's kid and very spiritual. I avoid any conversations about God, and we are very close. If you actually like this person enough to have her as a friend, there is a chance that things will work out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amethyst Posted November 6, 2005 Author Share Posted November 6, 2005 Perhaps you could be good for her..bring her into the 21st century.. She sounded extremely technophobic. I don't know whether it is just because of that guy or if it is also because the church has advised her not to use computers. I'm probably leaping to conclusions, but IMHO if someone refuses to even use e-mail because of internet porn, they are probably fundy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amethyst Posted November 6, 2005 Author Share Posted November 6, 2005 I just looked her up in the phone listings. She's not there. So I guess I can take it as a sign that it's not meant to be, unless I run into her again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DanInPA Posted November 6, 2005 Share Posted November 6, 2005 I think if it were me, I'd forget her again. Dan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♦ nivek ♦ Posted November 6, 2005 Share Posted November 6, 2005 This is gonna earn daFatman's advise of: "Is it, she and her life worth interupting yours to play the *walk on eggshells* game around her?" Tell ya this Am, trying to have folks on the margin of your life suddenly drop in, then have to try and understand everything isn't worth the bother sometimes. You can pic your nose, meals at a hamburger joint, and most of your friends.. In this case, pick your friends very carefully. kevin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amethyst Posted November 7, 2005 Author Share Posted November 7, 2005 You can pic your nose, meals at a hamburger joint, and most of your friends.. In this case, pick your friends very carefully. That's a great line, nivek. Thanks for the advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeffXL Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 "Is it, she and her life worth interupting yours to play the *walk on eggshells* game around her?" 102568[/snapback] I have what appear to be fundy neighbors. Whenever they have said something asinine, I have kept quiet. I'm worried they'll swoop down on me like vultures if they know I'm atheist. Xtians just can't help interjecting their BS at any opportunity. I was talking to them about a War of 1812 veteran's gravestone, when this neighbor just *had* to say, "Well, I hope he was a good Christian so he'd be in heaven now." WTF? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
All Gods Fail Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 My 2 cents: 1) SurlyMermaid81, I'm a recovering addict/alkie, and I did it w/out gods of any sort. (My 'higher power' was free will). I don't think occasional, social lite drug (I count booze as a drug, btw) use is anything to worry about. But sometimes recovering addicts can get a little over-zealous. Just be nice to your ex-junkie friend, and don't worry about it. 2) Amethyst, I never have problems being around xtians. You don't have to debate them when they whip Jebus out or quote scripture or whatever. Just tell 'em you're not a xtian. If they try to convert you, just laugh! If this childhood friend is still a fundy, she probably won't want anything to do w/you anyway. Then you're off the hook! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dianka Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 My 2 cents: 1) SurlyMermaid81, I'm a recovering addict/alkie, and I did it w/out gods of any sort. (My 'higher power' was free will). I don't think occasional, social lite drug (I count booze as a drug, btw) use is anything to worry about. But sometimes recovering addicts can get a little over-zealous. Just be nice to your ex-junkie friend, and don't worry about it. 102856[/snapback] I knew I was going to get the "I didn't turn to God in recovery" from you. Not that it's a bad thing; totally welcome. I knew I was going to get the "I didn't turn to God in recovery" from you. Not that it's a bad thing; totally welcome. Don't get me wrong, I don't avoid recovering addicts (one myself), I just don't care to hear her preach about God - similar hesitation that Amethyst has with her fundie acquaintance. In my case I will respect her thoughts, but this class is very *interactive* with lots of thoughts based on personal experiences, and we break up into groups to discuss. I have to participate, no choice. On the one hand I will work hard not to blow up, but on the other hand I don't feel I should treat her as any exception to the rule of people talking about religion. If I am forced to discuss God, no matter how pointless the debate, I will actively participate. But I am probably just getting worked up over nothing. I think we will both be pretty cool if forced into such an uncomfortable position. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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