London Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Abusers always try and make it your fault. That's how they justify harming you. They project their traits quite often. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackpudd1n Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 but I have a hard time letting go of the fact that she hasn't acknowledged the shit she put me through. No apology. No responsibility. Nothing. I'm sorry to hear what you've went through. I personally struggled (and still do in some ways) with dealing with this same thing with my father. As a child my father became an alcoholic and a drug addict. He would physically abuse my mother (a good portion of my childhood memories are him boot bashing my mother or smashing her head against the stairs until there was blood) and eventually his addictions cost us our home. My mother left him and he was out of the picture for most of my life. He made appearances every once in a while but he would land himself in jail and not be heard from again for many years at a time. He phones me out of nowhere when I was around 19 and expected me to welcome him with open arms. When I didn't he got angry and projected the blame onto me. On more than one occasion he has referred to me as being damaged because I am withdrawn and not very social. He has never apologized to me or my mother and has only blamed her or me for his behavior. Things have improved for various reasons, but I don't think I'll ever hear him apologize. Your father doesn't deserve to be in your life, Jaded. Your story really made my heart ache. You are someone that I would like to meet, because I think you sound like a beautiful person, and the next time I'm down your way, I'd like to have a coffee with you, if that's okay. You're a much better person than your father can ever hope to be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sybaris Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 "I am uncomfortable with labels" You'll grow out of it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Legion Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 I'm one half step from being a redneck. I'm somewhat kin to Southern gentlemen. But you'll never quite figure out what I am. And when I'm gone you'll say, "What the fuck? Damn." 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JadedAtheist Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Your father doesn't deserve to be in your life, Jaded. Your story really made my heart ache. You are someone that I would like to meet, because I think you sound like a beautiful person, and the next time I'm down your way, I'd like to have a coffee with you, if that's okay. You're a much better person than your father can ever hope to be. I don't think I'm as beautiful as you believe but coffee sometime sounds great Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noumena Posted February 18, 2012 Author Share Posted February 18, 2012 "I am uncomfortable with labels" You'll grow out of it I know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackpudd1n Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Your father doesn't deserve to be in your life, Jaded. Your story really made my heart ache. You are someone that I would like to meet, because I think you sound like a beautiful person, and the next time I'm down your way, I'd like to have a coffee with you, if that's okay. You're a much better person than your father can ever hope to be. I don't think I'm as beautiful as you believe but coffee sometime sounds great LOL awesome Don't know when it will be, but I'll get down there at some point Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
London Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 "I am uncomfortable with labels" You'll grow out of it I know. Because your beauty will always show through. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noumena Posted February 18, 2012 Author Share Posted February 18, 2012 "I am uncomfortable with labels" You'll grow out of it I know. Because your beauty will always show through. Thanks, London. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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