I am having trouble about knowing who to establish relationships with and who to avoid. I don't like having shallow relationships with people. I'd rather have a few, sincere friends rather than a lot of shallow friends. Anyway there are a couple of men that I am on the fence about.
On the one hand, that we have a lot in common and the potential for a great friendship is there based on the commonalities in personality that are there. It's a rare thing when your personality just seems to click or is magnetized to the personality of somebody else. I feel like everybody has "magnets" inside them which is their personality and they can only have real close friendships with others who have a corresponding "magnet". Some personalities just don't mix. Out of 99 people I might find only one that has a personality that's complementary to mine enough to have a real friendship. Keep in mind I am talking about genuine friendships not "facebook friends".
The problem is the two men in question are Christians, and whilst I am totally open to having friendships with Christians in spite of serious differences between us as regards beliefs and priorities, both men are virulently anti-gay and anti-lesbian. Do I establish a friendship and try to open their minds or do I just walk away at that point? I've never personally had a friendship relationship with a gay man but lesbian women have been a part of my life for many years and my experiences with lesbians have been positive. I don't understand where the need or desire to bash gays and lesbians even comes from but it is off-putting to me. Apparently these men have never known and loved anyone that wasn't straight.
The other thing is the men in question are both white and heavily indoctrinated into white (and by white I just mean, English) culture to where they are not open-minded towards other cultures. Obviously I find this very off-putting. Other races and languages seem to offend them other than Asian because that's still white.
I just don't know if it might be time to pull the plug on any kind of future relationship with these guys and just mostly avoid them or do I just let them be part of my life and try to change their views?