Awh Travi. I'm sorry to hear what you've been through. I cannot offer much advice, except to say that you are not a fool. Only you truly understand your position, and only you can decide how and when it is the right time to move forward. 

I don't mean to sound generic, but I wish you all the best in working through your situation. You come across as a genuine and compassionate individual even though you have been dealt an unfair hand, and for that, I admire you. All the best  ♥ 

People like her actually don't change. You might be interested in researching narcissistic personality disorder. These types of people just change partners. It may seem that she is drama free, but trust me...people who use others, just don't magically stop one day. You should not allow yourself to know anything going on in her life, go no contact. By no contact, this means do not ask others about her, do not allow others to talk to you about her, and do not lurk on her facebook or any other social media. This is to bring healing to yourself. You haven't healed from this yet, but when you do...you will see the forest through the trees. 

Awh Travi. I'm sorry to hear what you've been through. I cannot offer much advice, except to say that you are not a fool. Only you truly understand your position, and only you can decide how and when it is the right time to move forward. 

 

I don't mean to sound generic, but I wish you all the best in working through your situation. You come across as a genuine and compassionate individual even though you have been dealt an unfair hand, and for that, I admire you. All the best  ♥ 

Thanks. There isn't much in the way of advice to be given, I'm mainly trying to sort through the muddle in my head and get some clear position on my path in life.

Compassion and empathy are my two greatest strengths, but they often are turned against me. But I take the stance of, maybe - just maybe, I can make someone else's life better to help counteract what I put up with. If I can make even one person's day better, then my job is done.

People like her actually don't change. You might be interested in researching narcissistic personality disorder. These types of people just change partners. It may seem that she is drama free, but trust me...people who use others, just don't magically stop one day. You should not allow yourself to know anything going on in her life, go no contact. By no contact, this means do not ask others about her, do not allow others to talk to you about her, and do not lurk on her facebook or any other social media. This is to bring healing to yourself. You haven't healed from this yet, but when you do...you will see the forest through the trees. 

I've severed all contact, and told the people who were relaying updates (even though I didn't want them) to not worry about it. One of these days, all will be right again.

People that relay 'updates' are not your friends. Truth. That's a tough truth, but if you told them not to tell you and they did...sever those ties too, in my opinion. I had to end friendships because they weren't friends...they liked drama, and I imagine they are living off someone else's misery since I stopped talking with them. Break ups are hard, because sometimes you have to break up with more than just the person. lol Hope things get better. This too shall pass, as they say.

People that relay 'updates' are not your friends. Truth. That's a tough truth, but if you told them not to tell you and they did...sever those ties too, in my opinion. I had to end friendships because they weren't friends...they liked drama, and I imagine they are living off someone else's misery since I stopped talking with them. Break ups are hard, because sometimes you have to break up with more than just the person. lol Hope things get better. This too shall pass, as they say.

Hell, I'm running out of people to sever contact with, lol. But yeah, as time goes on.