Moderator Popular Post LogicalFallacy Posted January 14, 2021 Moderator Popular Post Share Posted January 14, 2021 Hi all. I don't think I've told my story in full here, so now is as good a time as any. It's fairly long, but thank you for reading in advance and I hope it helps somebody. My Story - From a pastors kid to an atheist. Religious History I was a Christian from birth for 32 1/2 years of my life. When I was born my parents were in a non denominational church which followed the teachings of a Pentecostal (Ex Baptist) divine healing preacher. Several years after I was born my parents left the church over doctrinal disagreements and started house meetings. This continued for some years with the group being a lose affiliation. After sometime my father felt the leading of the spirit to become the pastor of this small group and thus founded the church that would influence my entire adult life up to this point. Over the years the church dynamic has changed, but has maintained its basic identity as what is best described as a non denominational Christian church heavily influenced by the doctrine of the afore mentioned Pentecostal preacher. First Doubts While I would have never considered myself a very religious Christian e.g. I have never religiously read the bible or prayed every-single-day-without-a-beat. I did, however, whole heartedly believe in what the church taught. As I grew older and was exposed to the odd outside bits of information I became aware of worldviews and scientific facts that didn't correspond to my 'biblical reality'. However, for the most part I put these doubts aside. After a change in career and taking up university level study I was exposed to even more outside information. The first real cracks, however, were from inside the church, from the pastor in fact. For whatever reason we moved on from previously held beliefs about the divine healing preacher, and the 'truth' of what he said was questioned and overturned. An important note, the church still held he was a man of God, just not quite the Prophet we were for many years led to believe. This started a questioning in my mind of, well if we, or God, or the pastor was wrong about the 'Prophet' for all those years what else are we wrong about? This moving away and altering of doctrines occurred when I was about 21. I would once again put aside doubts and trust in God up until around October 2015 when I was 32. The Questioning In October 2015 the entire family would go on a cruise ship for a holiday. There was one particular day that was very rough, we were not allowed out on the upper decks so I went to the library. There I found and read a book by Z. Sitchin who proposed that ancient writings of the Sumerians about the Annunaki were telling actual events of an alien species that created humans long ago. Further research proved that Sitchin's assertions were largely incorrect, but it did let me know that there were ancient writings out there - writings that contained stories similar to the ones in the Bible. I got very interested in the Nephalim, the Annunaki, the planet Nibiru etc. and how they related to the Bible. If you have no idea what I'm talking about at this point, don't worry you are not missing out on much. This all lead me to a lot of researching and watching documentaries surrounding the subject. These didn't impact on my belief in God, because for the most part it was mumbo jumbo nonsense. What did happen however, as often happens with the internet these days, is I ended up watching some scientific documentaries about archaeology in regards to ancient Israel. As a believer I fully expected any archaeological documentary about Israel to confirm Biblical history, which I believed was the most accurate history of the earth as well as God's word to his chosen few. What I found really rocked me. As I now know, there is very little archaeological evidence to support anything in the Bible. The Debates Stage A few months after the cruise I started watching formal religious debates on youtube. The first debate I watched was an Intelligence Squared debate titled Is Islam a Religion of Peace with Ayaan Hirsi Ali debating against the motion. What was important about this debate was it opened up knowledge of another major religion and the method of critical thinking the debaters against the motion used. What applied here, if one was honest, should also apply to Christianity. This brought me to Christian vs Atheist debates. Frank Turek vs Christopher Hitchens debating Does God Exist would be the first of many, and introduced me to the powerhouse that was Christopher Hitchens. I would go on to watch many many debates, and over time noticed that when pushed for answers the Christians would fall back many a time to a logical fallacy. Special pleading, God of the gaps, begging the question, false dichotomies etc were employed time and again by Christians. As an interesting side note, it was this observation that would give me my current handle LogicalFallacy. Digging Deeper During this time I began to probe deeper looking for answers. The account in Genesis had been thrown into doubt so I looked at scientific explanations. I would discover that there was no scientific evidence for Noah's flood, or any archaeological or historical evidence for 2 million Hebrew slaves leaving Egypt. Furthermore calculations showing what would be necessary for some events recorded in the Bible to be real were staggeringly improbable. I came across questions I had never thought to ask. How much water would be required to cover the entire earth to the height of Mount Everest? How much water per day would be necessary for 2 million Hebrews in the desert? The answers to these cast even more doubt on the inerrancy of scripture. I also started studying ancient mythologies, discovering many similarities between both the stories told, and the development of the various religions around the world. At the later stage of my de-conversion process I would look into the history of the New Testament and Jesus. This would at the very least throw serious doubt as to whether what was recorded in the Bible actually happened. The Realisation (That I didn't believe) and De-Conversion At some point in May/June of 2016 while at work thinking about the information I came across I had a gut wrenching realisation that I no longer believed what was written in the Bible. My first thoughts were that in my search I had lost my faith and that the fault was mine. I became terrified that God would judge me for being an unbeliever and would punish me. At this point I was having something of a crisis of faith, I hadn't unequivocally lost my belief in God. I kept searching for answers, something that would provide information that would get my belief back. But the more I dug, the more I realised that there was no basis even for the New Testament. Very few Christian apologetics made any significant points that countered the growing evidence against the Bible. Peter Hitchens made a few great points during an Oxford debate that were not Bible based, but his own conviction, which up to that point I felt was one of the best arguments for Christianity. However Peter failed to make a strong case for God. Around September/October 2016, while still not having a solid opinion on all that I had learned, I accepted that I didn't believe the Bible, or God, the Devil, Angels, Demons, Heaven, or Hell. Not the Christian version, the Islamic version, the Hindi version or the Greek version. I concluded that they are all religions made up in the minds of humans, propagated via religious leaders to the masses who taught their children that their religion was the truth, the one true and only truth. Post De-Conversion This will naturally be an on going tale, but for this section, this is the immediate after affect, telling the family, and hopefully some enlightenment for those who find themselves in a similar position. Telling the family of my non belief and leaving the church was, I think, the hardest most painful thing I have ever done, and may ever have to do. What possibly didn't help was the fact I just told my parents over dinner. There were no hints or warnings or suspicion that I might be having doubts. Perhaps they were blind to it, because in my mind I thought I had laid in hints over the months that I was having doubts. Apparently this wasn't enough and my confession of apostasy was like a frag grenade going off. Some family members were quite hysterical, claiming they were having chest pains because of me as if their reaction was my fault. As I would later learn, this is a common defense mechanism to a challenge to dearly held beliefs. It was a rough few months, but as often happens time heals, or at least allows an acceptable existence. My family and I have largely come to the agreement that we don't discuss religious matters. They don't try and reconvert me, and I don't tell them why their beliefs are wrong. During this time I joined certain forums and support groups which helped immeasurably. For a person who had no decent contacts outside of the church group it was a lonely time and online communities helped ease the pain. As of writing I am still involved with various online groups and seek to help others. Like me, they having lost their faith and started their journey out of religion need support. I hope this story helps someone else on their journey out of religion as they realize they were not born a Christian, a Hindu, a Muslim, but that they were free born. 9 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderator TABA Posted January 14, 2021 Moderator Share Posted January 14, 2021 Hey LF, thanks for taking the time to put this together. For many of us, our original introductions or “ex-timonies” were made at a time when we were still new and often insecure and scared in our non-belief. So it’s good to look back from the vantage point of a few years later. I think this can be reassuring to people in those early stages of deconversion. Our good friend @ag_NO_stic just posted a really good update on her ex-Christian life. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♦ Fuego ♦ Posted January 14, 2021 Share Posted January 14, 2021 Wow, wonderful summary! Thanks for giving us your path out, and the difficulties it presented. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsathoggua9 Posted January 15, 2021 Share Posted January 15, 2021 I enjoyed reading your story! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
disillusioned Posted January 16, 2021 Share Posted January 16, 2021 Good stuff LF. It's been a long ride. I'm certainly glad to have you for a friend, even if we've never actually met. Maybe one day. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pantheory Posted January 16, 2021 Share Posted January 16, 2021 very nice LF. As for me as a teen, I simply read the bible and in light of science realized that at least Genesis and Revelations, the first and last books of the Bible were obviously wrong and pure BS. This realization happened to me about age 13 when I came to believe that only a part of the Bible was correct. After studying other Christian and non-Christian religions of the world, and considering science explanations, I lost my faith in the existence of a God totally about age 16 while I was still in high school. Although I believed that evolution via natural selection was obviously true and could not be denied, other scientific explanations in other fields of science also sounded like BS to me. In our science vs. religion forum I often criticized modern physics theories, especially in Cosmology. At that time BAA (Mark) told me to get the 'F' out and leave the X-Christian forum, first because I had never been an adult believer in his opinion, and secondly because I was criticizing science, in which he was a devout believer. After extensive arguments in this forum for a year or more, finally In private PM's we came to an agreement concerning how we both should post in the science forum. He believed that many members and lurkers were still on the fence and that my postings would hurt them. I told him that I believed that the evidence should be presented on many sides and let the reader consider what might be true of not; let the cards fall as they may. I explained that the only reason that I was discussing my own theories in the science forum was because I was asked questions about them concerning OP's posted by others. I explained that I was not gullible to science proselytizing any more than I was to religion after studying both. I said that I was open to alternative ideas and would always present different sides to any debate in science unless somebody else beats me to it. As those who were here at that time know, BAA would jump on anything new in astronomy/ cosmology and explain that belief, discovery etc. in great and wondrous detail. He very-much disliked my postings of alternative ideas on that subject since many were outside of mainstream science. He believed that evidence against mainstream science theory could seriously hurt the de-conversion process for both members and lurkers. So we came to an agreement concerning both of our postings in the science forum and I think his distrust and dislike of me slowly waned, as well as our online arguments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahJaneSmith Posted January 17, 2021 Share Posted January 17, 2021 Thanks for sharing your story. I’m also a pastor’s kid. I imagine there are many of us. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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