There's this thing called denial, and I think she's got it to some degree because of her constantly referring to you as struggling and making references to you being a christian.

I hope her real reason for switching churches has to do with her seeing it as dead, though I doubt that would be completely accurate. Personally, whenever my family switched churches, it was a maneuver to save face. That was about it. Something not going right in the family, they would switch worship stools.

HI roadrunner;

I agree with zomberina...she is in denial; pushing toward controlling behavior if you ask me. She may feel insecure that she doesn't know what you are thinking or what you are basing decisions upon...she is wanting to believe that you are still a christian for HER...

You seem level headed, determined and focused. SHE is the one who is struggling with YOU not being a christian anymore. Maybe she just needs some reassurance that your love for her is based upon something bigger than christianity or god...like LOVE???