Adrianime Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 Sounds like cult bullying. Just ignore the bully, it is a wimp and will eventually go away on its own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Moderator florduh Posted February 13, 2013 Super Moderator Share Posted February 13, 2013 I know the urge to have the last word is strong, but just ignoring them is best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrianime Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 In all seriousness, refusing to invest any more time and emotion in them (don't even read the letters, unless they just crack you up or something) is probably the best choice. If you do choose to respond, don't include explanations, or anything of depth really. Just surface level brevity will at least limit their ammunition and resolve. If you do choose to write back, here's an idea: "Dear church, NO. signed -Misipsy218" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Moderator buffettphan Posted February 13, 2013 Super Moderator Share Posted February 13, 2013 ...I think that would be a funny response. "If you've been praying for me for months and God hasn't changed my heart, then there must be some among you who lack faith or who have unconfessed sin in your lives. You need to confess all of your sins to the Lord and seek him more urgently so that your prayers may be answered." T2M -- Love that response! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdelsolray Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 Ignore them. Don't take ownership of their issues, or enable them with codependency. Ignore them and enjoy your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellwood Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 I agree with - ignore them. I continue to be amazed how often even "friendly" communication with the old "gang" eventually becomes an attempt to bring you back into the gang. Ignore them. The "Prayer has been offered for several months concerning your present behavior" really annoys me. The word Behavior in particular. Sounds like you are being treated like some little naughty kid who stole some cookies from the cookie jar. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SquareOne Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 I like Jose's idea... sounds like fun. Alternatively you could just tell them to fuck off... Whatever suits... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdelsolray Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 I like Jose's idea... sounds like fun. Alternatively you could just tell them to fuck off... Whatever suits... This is quite tempting - telling them to fuck off. However (if it were me), by ignoring them, I would be taking a moral high ground (at least from one perspective). Of course, if, after I ignored them, they came back with yet another "letter", I could chose to (i) ignore them once again, which could be considered quite mature and appropriate, or, (ii) I could tell them to go away, do not contact me anymore and, yes, fuck off. I'd wait and save the "fuck off" until much later in the process. Ha ha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Akheia Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Controllers aim to draw you into conversation, confident that they'll wear you down eventually. The best thing you can do is to ignore them. DO however jot down the times, dates, and places of all contact with them, because if they escalate, you're going to want to draw outside authorities into the mix. Controllers do respond very well to the setting of firm boundaries with clear penalties for misbehavior--one might say that's ALL they respond to. You needn't speak to them about any of this, though. A nicely-worded letter from a lawyer might be all that's needed for them to back off and consign you to the pits of hell, or a visit from one of the fine members of your local constabulary. If not, hey, those notes about their abuse could form a lawsuit that'll win you millions of dollars from them If you do that, don't forget the nice lady who gave you the idea. I like ponies. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
msipsy218 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 I wrote up a little blog post last night and posted it on my facebook, along with a couple of angry statuses. That's all I will give them. They suck. And I'm so glad I'm away from them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExCBooster Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Wow... it's like a creepy, stalker-ish bad ex. Self-righteous, pompous, making it your problem instead of theirs, and, yeah... hand delivered. Creeepy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wanderinstar Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 I wrote up a little blog post last night and posted it on my facebook, along with a couple of angry statuses. That's all I will give them. They suck. And I'm so glad I'm away from them. Cool, you wrote about them but not to them...that will drive them nuts!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wanderinstar Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Ohh, I just thought. Maybe they are so intensely stalking you that they found you here?? Do you think that's a possibility? If they are here, "Hi guys!" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrianime Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 Let's hope they haven't found her here, or found her blog for that matter. Writing about them can be just as "good" as writing to them, if they find it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tzarza Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 I wrote up a little blog post last night and posted it on my facebook, along with a couple of angry statuses. That's all I will give them. They suck. And I'm so glad I'm away from them. Care to copy it here? I'm curious about what you wrote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Akheia Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 I am too But if you don't want to share I know we'll all understand. You could have a shitload of fun with snarky FB posts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
msipsy218 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Share Posted February 15, 2013 Ohh, I just thought. Maybe they are so intensely stalking you that they found you here?? Do you think that's a possibility? If they are here, "Hi guys!" Honestly, I've thought about that. Let 'em read though. Maybe they will realize that THEY are the fucked up ones if they actually saw what others thought about their creepy letter. Probably not. But idc. and I don't mind sharing. I'm not much of a writer though http://opinionatedhomemaker.blogspot.com/ 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Moderator florduh Posted February 15, 2013 Super Moderator Share Posted February 15, 2013 Nicely written, ms! Very impressed, except for that Justin Beiber thing. Well, nobody's perfect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrianime Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 That was nice. Though very mild, and did not specifical mention your ex-church. But I liked it. It was honest. Plus Bieber's song baby was pretty awesome. Florduh doesn't know what he is talking about. I was like baby, baby, baby oh! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Akheia Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 I think that's a well-done post And I have no room to criticize someone for liking Justin Bieber when I like Xanadu. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Moderator florduh Posted February 15, 2013 Super Moderator Share Posted February 15, 2013 And I have no room to criticize someone for liking Justin Bieber when I like Xanadu. You are correct. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Akheia Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 Florduh - Oh please. You don't fool me. You're an Aqua fan. I can tell. We can smell our own. MsIpsy - you're so right. If people don't see what a wonderful person you are, if they're so quick to dismiss you over a belief you no longer hold that doesn't impact them at all, then they're the ones missing out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
msipsy218 Posted February 16, 2013 Author Share Posted February 16, 2013 Thanks guys I wish I could say JB was an exception, but I tend to like stupid pop-y songs that have meaningless lyrics and repetitive generic beats. I likes what I likes. Anyways, no further word from anyone in the church, but thanks to the support here and IRL I'm totally over it anyways. It hurt at first but now, not so much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annier Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Awesome blog! So honest and from the heart. I loved it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdelsolray Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 You are moving on. That's a good thing, even if it doesn't feel that way at first. Christianity is like a bad habit. When we shed a bad habit, it is recommended to replace it with a good habit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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