kolaida Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 Awesome, fantastic to hear! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seeker001 Posted August 16, 2013 Share Posted August 16, 2013 Throwing my congrats as well. Stay strong girl, you can do it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gall Posted August 16, 2013 Share Posted August 16, 2013 my father just told me I can't expect relationships to last when there isn't a moral center to my life because I'm not a Christian. lol thaaaaanks dad. Why take ownership of your father's emotional dysfunction? He implies that morals only come from his religion. That is a lie. It is bullshit. He uses it in an attempt to continue control over you. I'll ask another question - at 25 years of age, why do you remain codependent with your father? Because like any abusive relationship, it is hard to leave a situation where at least you KNOW what to expect. Good or bad. I've been there, done that, have leftover scars to prove it. Change is frightening. Period. The world has plenty of good things to offer you and many many people like you who want to belong have friends and family. This person called father in your life is not your family or your friend if he treats you that way and you should leave and seek your own path. Sure it is scary but isn't that sort of fear of the unknown worth it when we have such short lives. Relish in this time seize it and live within it. Only you get to decide how you feel and if you choose to feel bad in a bad situation no one should fault you. However you have a choice and the day you make the choice to go seek happiness elsewhere is you saying I don't need pity I need challenge. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
electech98 Posted August 16, 2013 Share Posted August 16, 2013 Very glad to hear from you again, Duckie, and that the news is very positive! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarahinprogress Posted August 17, 2013 Author Share Posted August 17, 2013 And as I have stated, I am working on leaving. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarahinprogress Posted August 19, 2013 Author Share Posted August 19, 2013 However you have a choice and the day you make the choice to go seek happiness elsewhere is you saying I don't need pity I need challenge. also, I have never once asked for anyone's pity or sympathy. I appreciate that you're meaning to help, but you come off as quite condescending, especially as I have been consistent in saying that I am working toward leaving my parents house. just because I am not going things exactly the way you would did not mean I'm co-dependant, or self pitying. far from it. I have spent the last year learning my own strengths and weaknesses and achieving the goals I set for myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarahinprogress Posted August 19, 2013 Author Share Posted August 19, 2013 However you have a choice and the day you make the choice to go seek happiness elsewhere is you saying I don't need pity I need challenge. also, I have never once asked for anyone's pity or sympathy. I appreciate that you're meaning to help, but you come off as quite condescending, especially as I have been consistent in saying that I am working toward leaving my parents house. just because I am not going things exactly the way you would did not mean I'm co-dependant, or self pitying. far from it. I have spent the last year learning my own strengths and weaknesses and achieving the goals I set for myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mymistake Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 Don't feel bad. It's tough leaving home on minimum wage in a bad economy. And yet that is what is expected of most 18 year olds. There was a time when college was the door to opportunity. These days most college grads have to flip burgers only now they have a massive debt they can't escape. I had to live with my folks all through my teens and hated every minute of it. You got to do what you got to do. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post sarahinprogress Posted December 6, 2013 Author Popular Post Share Posted December 6, 2013 DEAR EVERYONE!!!! I have a full-time job and my own apratment! yay! that is all 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Astreja Posted December 6, 2013 Share Posted December 6, 2013 Congratulations, Duckiegirl! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue elephant Posted December 6, 2013 Share Posted December 6, 2013 Woo hoo Duckie Girl! Well done! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Moderator buffettphan Posted December 6, 2013 Super Moderator Share Posted December 6, 2013 Good on you!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Moderator TheRedneckProfessor Posted December 6, 2013 Super Moderator Share Posted December 6, 2013 Well done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mymistake Posted December 6, 2013 Share Posted December 6, 2013 I now pronounce you a success! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slave2six Posted December 6, 2013 Share Posted December 6, 2013 Hi Duckiegirl - as the child of a pastor, I can understand your plight. Excommunicating is a favorite pastime of Christians. They've been doing it since Nicaea. Self-righteous pricks. It pisses me off that people think they have to choose "god" over their own children. "God is love. Now get out." Fucking dicks. What part of California are you in? If you're in the Orange County area, I have friends there who I can reach out to to see if they know of anyplace hiring. You can catch me on Skype at slave2six. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slave2six Posted December 6, 2013 Share Posted December 6, 2013 Guess I was late to the game. Glad to see that you're all set! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
midniterider Posted December 6, 2013 Share Posted December 6, 2013 DEAR EVERYONE!!!! I have a full-time job and my own apratment! yay! that is all Good job. :-) Enjoy life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rach Posted December 7, 2013 Share Posted December 7, 2013 Don't feel bad. It's tough leaving home on minimum wage in a bad economy. And yet that is what is expected of most 18 year olds. There was a time when college was the door to opportunity. These days most college grads have to flip burgers only now they have a massive debt they can't escape. I had to live with my folks all through my teens and hated every minute of it. You got to do what you got to do. Exactly parents and teachers these days don't know what they're talking about telling students how important college is going to be for their life. It's a money drain. I would never have gone if I had known the truth. But I was brainwashed by teachers to believe that my life would not succeed without college. All it did was set me back thousands of dollars. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RaLeah Posted December 7, 2013 Share Posted December 7, 2013 Good for you!!! Be patient with yourself as you become financially independent. It takes a while to get all your furniture, pots and pans, and other financial stuff in order. But you've taken the first steps, and you're out on your own, and life gets so much better and more interesting and exciting from there. Here's to you, building a new life and having a great time! Lots of love and excitement and hope for you and your new beginning! Thanks so much for sharing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kolaida Posted December 8, 2013 Share Posted December 8, 2013 Awesome job, Duckiegirl! I'm sure it's a huge relief and it WILL eventually improve the relationship with your parents. I'm so very happy for hear this! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
austere Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 I just read nearly all of this thread and I am SO happy for you! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moanareina Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 Wow Today I spent the afternoon at a food place writing down some thoughts about life and my current situation etc. When I left I passed a movie theatre and thought I might just go and see if there was a show I would like to watch but then decided to take the next train to get home. So I started to read this story and man, this was way more intense than any movie I could have seen tonight! And it even has a happy ending, sorta. I wish you all the best and am happy you got out of that situation. I don't think I would have had the strength to hold on as you did. Chapeau (hats off)! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tzarza Posted December 12, 2013 Share Posted December 12, 2013 I'm so glad you're in a good place, Duckiegirl! I imagine you're having a blast being independent. It's an exciting change I'm on the job hunt myself, and getting settled in a new city. Congratulations on getting it done! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravenstar Posted December 13, 2013 Share Posted December 13, 2013 Good for you… I remember my first few places.. I didn't have much and everything was second hand, but it was all mine. I polished and buffed and organized and rearranged - and sometimes I just layer on the floor and absorbed it. Revel in it… create a wonderful life for yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarahinprogress Posted December 19, 2013 Author Share Posted December 19, 2013 Ok, it wont let me tag everyone, BUT! Thank you all so much! Im so happy to be living in my own apartment, even though its rather small, its still ALL MINE and i can do whatever i like and not worry about offending anyone delicate religious sensibilities. Thank you all on here, for being here when i needed you. There were some dark times in the last couple of years, and i know i couldn.t have gotten through them without you guys! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts