DrGuitar Posted March 27, 2013 Share Posted March 27, 2013 I think you need to face the reality of having to support yourself...and do it quickly... Staying with dad is simply not an option..main thing to do is start making MONEY to keep yourself off the street..how about girlfriends could they or their parents take you in?? You Dad has mental issues to be frank...you cannot fix them but neither can you let them control you... so dont keep obssessing about him...religious fanatics are obssessives..they are not sound mentally... and dont think for a minute he wont throw you over for Jesus..these people are like alcoholics...they would hock their own kids for a bottle..so .. Get a job and get a place to live...your dad went bonkers...its a terrible situation..I am so sorry for you...but you have to face reality and not dwell on the tragedy of it all...after you get going in your new independent mode you can talk to him about reconciliation...for now get out and get your life moving...all the best Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrianime Posted March 27, 2013 Share Posted March 27, 2013 I'm not trying to be negative here. But I'm just a little confused. I had thought that I read this whole thread, but I must have missed something (based off of how strongly everybody is urging her to get out of the house IMMEDIATELY). But what specifically has her father done that has made him out to be so terrible? Please enlighten me, anybody. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarahinprogress Posted April 9, 2013 Author Share Posted April 9, 2013 hey everyone. I'm ok. my boyfriend broke up with me due to the stress of our relationship and his parents pressuring him to "get out while he can" spent a week in bed crying, then decided I'm done because I deserve someone better. the attached got posted on my wall when I posted that I was done wasting tears in someone who gave up. my dad has been really good for a long while now, I think he's finally accepted that I am who I am apart from him. still in school, still planning to move out within the year. edit: oh, and my doctor put me on prozac. chemical stabilizers are seriously miraculous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pratt Posted April 9, 2013 Share Posted April 9, 2013 oh shit,,, jesus is the obvious answer,,,, no fucking joke,,,,,, and you are still friend with such a retard? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue elephant Posted April 9, 2013 Share Posted April 9, 2013 So sorry to hear this has happened to you. All I can think is that there are actually worse crises in life than fundy parents. This boy would not be there for you in a VERY bad crisis. There are better boys out there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest r3alchild Posted April 9, 2013 Share Posted April 9, 2013 Duckiegirl, All your posts that I have read are like watching a sad montage, but the montage is not over and neither is the film. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrianime Posted April 9, 2013 Share Posted April 9, 2013 Sorry Duckie Girl about your BF. And no, Jesus is not the answer. Baka! (her, not you) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
new2me Posted April 9, 2013 Share Posted April 9, 2013 Duckiegirl, So sorry that things didn't work out with the BF. You do deserve someone better, and you will find him. Just don't hold your breath for Jesus to bring him to you! Glad that things are settling down with your dad and that you're feeling better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
midniterider Posted April 9, 2013 Share Posted April 9, 2013 hey everyone. I'm ok. my boyfriend broke up with me due to the stress of our relationship and his parents pressuring him to "get out while he can" spent a week in bed crying, then decided I'm done because I deserve someone better. the attached got posted on my wall when I posted that I was done wasting tears in someone who gave up. my dad has been really good for a long while now, I think he's finally accepted that I am who I am apart from him. still in school, still planning to move out within the year. edit: oh, and my doctor put me on prozac. chemical stabilizers are seriously miraculous. Sorry to hear about the breakup. Take good care of yourself, get that degree, move out and start life. :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
midniterider Posted April 9, 2013 Share Posted April 9, 2013 oh shit,,, jesus is the obvious answer,,,, no fucking joke,,,,,, and you are still friend with such a retard? The answer is: Jesus The question is: What is a big waste of time? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
new2me Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 oh shit,,, jesus is the obvious answer,,,, no fucking joke,,,,,, and you are still friend with such a retard? The answer is: Jesus The question is: What is a big waste of time? ooh ooh, I've got one! The question is: Who is a mythological figure offering nothing of value to anyone living in the modern age? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pantophobia Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 Jesus isn't the answer. He's *terrible* in bed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarahinprogress Posted April 11, 2013 Author Share Posted April 11, 2013 my father just told me I can't expect relationships to last when there isn't a moral center to my life because I'm not a Christian. lol thaaaaanks dad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest r3alchild Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 my father just told me I can't expect relationships to last when there isn't a moral center to my life because I'm not a Christian. lol thaaaaanks dad. Thats a odd thing for him to say since everything he does is like a filthy rag to god. Isaiah 64:6 All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags; we all shrivel up like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
midniterider Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 my father just told me I can't expect relationships to last when there isn't a moral center to my life because I'm not a Christian. lol thaaaaanks dad. And some Christians stay together in their marriage even though they are miserable and can no longer stand each other because their religion says marriage is until death. And some Christians get divorced. Google "Christian Divorce Rate" And some Christians commit crimes even though Jesus is their moral center. Hmmm. How can that be? :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tzarza Posted April 19, 2013 Share Posted April 19, 2013 I'm not saying you're not a tough cookie now, but you're going to be a freaking diamond one day, duckiegirl. Shiney, shiney.Keep hanging in there! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdelsolray Posted April 21, 2013 Share Posted April 21, 2013 my father just told me I can't expect relationships to last when there isn't a moral center to my life because I'm not a Christian. lol thaaaaanks dad. Why take ownership of your father's emotional dysfunction? He implies that morals only come from his religion. That is a lie. It is bullshit. He uses it in an attempt to continue control over you. I'll ask another question - at 25 years of age, why do you remain codependent with your father? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheBluegrassSkeptic Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 my father just told me I can't expect relationships to last when there isn't a moral center to my life because I'm not a Christian. lol thaaaaanks dad. Why take ownership of your father's emotional dysfunction? He implies that morals only come from his religion. That is a lie. It is bullshit. He uses it in an attempt to continue control over you. I'll ask another question - at 25 years of age, why do you remain codependent with your father? Because like any abusive relationship, it is hard to leave a situation where at least you KNOW what to expect. Good or bad. I've been there, done that, have leftover scars to prove it. Change is frightening. Period. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seeker001 Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 For what it is worth Duckiegirl, you are a brave soul to be willing to stand up for who you are. It takes a lot of courage to be willing to go up against the grain and just say that the emperor has no clothes. Ignorance is darkness, it is doubt that leads the way into the light. Your father is blinded by his zealotry and has shut himself into intellectual darkness. You are the one who is following the light of truth, where ever that may lead you. Stay strong and keep your curiosity alive, don't let your father bring you back into the darkness. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarahinprogress Posted August 14, 2013 Author Share Posted August 14, 2013 my brothers and sisters in apostasy! today I graduate! this marks the beginning of the end of my struggles at home. in other news, I have new, fantastically supportive boyfriend, I got a letter in the mail that the church is removing my name from their membership books, and my mother is starting to acknowledge my father's mental illness. all is well in my world! I hope to start being more active here soon, but my father has blocked my internet access, so I'm not sure how frequently I'll be around. anyways, thank you all for your support the last couple of years. without alot of you, I think I might be dead now. seriously. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Moderator buffettphan Posted August 14, 2013 Super Moderator Share Posted August 14, 2013 Glad things are looking up! Take care and hope to see you around here again soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mymistake Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 Congraz! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
new2me Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 Glad to hear it, Duckie! I had been wondering how you were doing. Sounds like everything is moving in the right direction! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Astreja Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 Congratulations on your graduation, Duckiegirl! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue elephant Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 Congratulations indeed! Well done! Let the adult life begin! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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